THEORY OF EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT (GOLDSTEIN)
Emotional intelligence is the ability to deal with one’s as well
as others emotions. It allows us to think more creatively and use our emotions
to solve problems. D. Goleman believes that “Emotional
intelligence appears to be an important set of psychological abilities that
relate to life’s success”.
The key factors of emotional intelligence are as follows:
1. Knowing one’s emotions: Self-awareness
The ability to recognize a feeling as it happens and not put it
off is the keystone to emotional intelligence. The ability to monitor feeling
from moment to moment is a crucial psychological insight of self-understanding.
Example: It is important to be able to say “I
am feeling jealous”, even though it may be uncomfortable to admit it.
2. Managing Emotions:
If we have accepted what
we are feeling, even the uncomfortable emotion can be handled ably.
Example: The
ability to manage with anger by not scolding or beating the other.
3. Motivating oneself:
Emotions motivate us and also disempower us if they are too strong
and we allow them to overwhelm us. To motivate positively, feelings of
enthusiasm, zeal and confidence are necessary.
Example: If
one wants to get what he wants in life he has to develop emotional control
which requires delaying gratification.
4. Recognize emotions of others-emphathy:
As one begins to recognize
emotions in oneself and realize her own emotion she will be able to sense them
in others more accurately.
5. Handling relationships:
The art of relationships
is skill in managing others emotions. Understanding other people’s emotions
give us the ability to motivate them. On having these skills people can do well
at anything that relies on interacting smoothly with others.
